Monday, February 25, 2008

The Plans I Have . . .

Good Monday Morning!

This weekend was J's baptism. After months and months of delays, we finally had a pouring of the water . . .

We seriously intended to have him baptized around his third month, but after finding out that we were living in sin (don't get all excited--we were MARRIED, it just wasn't recognized by those pesky Catholics . . . Catholics--don't be upset with me, I married one and am raising another, after all! ), we had to wait to have our marriage convalidated. At least we got to get married again. Of course holidays, my brother and sister-in-law's baby shower, their baby's birth all added up to a string of delays. Wouldn't be so bad it it weren't for the fact that we live several hours from our family. But, in the end, it all turned out perfectly.

The priest was wonderful--we adore him. He is one of those rare people who make an effort to make you feel comfortable. He has the most welcoming way about him that it almost makes me want to become one of those pesky Catholics. My sister-in-law, her husband, their little boy, and my mom-in-law all came in from out of town and stayed with us. Three of my teacher friends attended the ceremony as well and then joined us for dinner and cake after. It was such a lovely time.

I loved having our house filled with life. N, my little nephew has the cutest way of saying Baby J's name. I adore it! He is nearly three and is so full of life and energy! There was conversation, game-playing, eating, laughing . . . They just left a little while ago, J is napping, I'm waiting for a load of laundry to finish. The house is quiet. There is nothing but the humming of the washer to keep me company. *sniff*

Although the event was memorable, I was saddened that my own family could not attend. My parents have a car that would probably never make it here safely, my brother just had a baby and needed to be home with his wife, my baby sister C has classes during the weekend (and I know would have been here if I "demanded" it), and my sister B couldn't be here because she has already traveled extensively and desperately needs to save her money so she can come to Florida with us (hint . . . hint . . .). Although I would have loved for my family to be here, it is her presence that I missed the most. She has an energy that is infectious. The amount of love and care she possesses for little J is extraordinary--and for that I am thankful. I'm hoping she won't mind, but I had to share this message she left for him . . .

Dear J,

I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you today (and every day really). I should've thought to send something sooner but there's no use hiding the fact that your aunt is a procrastinator and a non-plan aheader!

Today's a big day for you and I wish I could be there. But I am praying for you and I promise I always will. When you're older we'll definitely have lots of chats about God, life and even the weather. With the help of your parents, family and the Holy Spirit you'll learn all about God's love and what He's done for you and one day you'll understand on your own and be able to share with others as well.

God's got a BIG plan for you that began even before you were born. I can't wait to see where it all takes you.

Before I leave you to do your baby things I just want to share my favorite bible verse:
Jeremiah 29:11-13
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart."

I love you dear nephew!

Love always,
Aunt B

I look at J and I can't imagine him crawling . . . but he will. I can't imagine him walking . . . but he will. I can't imagine him saying "I love you" . . . but he will (I hope!). He will grow up. I can't hold him tight enough to stop it (my brother-in-law says I can . . . but I think we both know it is fruitless). He will go to school. He will start a family. He will move on with his own life . . . one day . . . God willing. In a moment, I get so excited about all that life has in store for this little guy AND saddened to learn that it will all go by so very fast.

Geez, this whole mom thing is killing me . . . You know, they tell you about the poopy diapers, the all-nighters, the spit-up, the need to baby-proof, the best toys, the worst foods . . . the stuff. But I guess no one can tell you about the moments . . . those, you have to experience yourself.


Kamis Khlopchyk said...

What a fabulous post, you hit the nail on the head. No one can prepare you for the enormity of that little life that you brought into the world and no one can tell you that loving him will be the single most important thing you will do in your life.

Happy Baptism to your little J!

*tee hee, those pesky Catholics* I grew up one and I find that enormously funny!

Kamis Khlopchyk said...

Oh my goodness! I spit out my coffee at the lint comment - you are too funny!


Oh and thanks for the good looks comment though I fear for me it's the magic of make up. My kids look exactly like their daddy so really I can't take any credit.

tommie said...

this brought tears to my eyes...but then again, I am being a "woman" this week.

Every time my kids are being stinkers, I do remind myself of how great they really are. That small stuff that makes you remember why we had them in the first place!

Our Crooked Tree said...

careful...we had another one when I figured out how quickly the first one grows up!

Lori said...

What a loving letter your sister sent him... something to cherish forever. And yes, no one tells you about those moments when you just want time to stand still and the world to stop spinning, not because everything is going wrong, but because everything is going right.

Cherish the little moments and they will make the big ones even more special!

Karen said...

I guess it's the moments that couples become parents for. But you're right. There's no explaining them; they're much sweeter than you could ever imagine.

Rosie said...

I grew up Catholic and think the pesky Catholic reference is funny too, and I agree! Congratulations on your special day. I enjoyed your post.

Kat said...

Awww. This was just so precious. So sweet. It is true. Everyone always tells you how hard it is, but no one tells you about these precious little moments.
My hubby and I got married by one of those fabulous priests you mentioned. He really became part of our family. We just loved him. And now he has moved away. :( Very sad.
I always got really nervous if my babies weren't baptized by 6 weeks. I would have had them baptized at birth if possible, but I also like all the hoopla and party that goes with the baptism later on.
With Joey, because he was my first, I always felt like I was just "playing" mommy. I didn't really FEEL like a mom. Until the morning of his baptism and I was getting him into his little outfit. It all hit me then. It was an amazing moment.
Such a precious letter your sister wrote. Gorgeous.
Congrats to little J! God bless you, kiddo!
One of those pesky Catholics

Pam said...

Oh, you made me cry! There is great responsibility and joy in raising a child to go out into the world. Funny, if we do our job well- it is to get them ready to be part of the world and not need us. Those moments you mentioned - bittersweet. I'm off to hug my children now to see if I can really keep them little for a while longer!

Mighty Morphin' Mama said...

My mommy heart is split wide open reading this post. How fortunate little J is to have wonderful people to love and pray for him. Sounds like a very special weekend.
Oh, that is one of my very favorite verses.
Blessings for you and little J

Lori said...

That post gave me goosebumps! Well said! And, what a sweet aunt your little guy has where are some pictures of the big event? ha!

Angela DeRossett said...

Beautiful!!! Can't wait to see pictures!

Texasholly said...

what a precious letter and special event.

It is times like these that you realize how motherhood will either make you stronger or kill ya! It goes by soooo fast...

RJTrue said...

Wow ... for a change, I don't have much to say.
Yay for your little one.

suchsimplepleasures said...

hey honey!! thanks for clearing up the definition of that word for me!! hoomalimali...give me a break!!
congratulations on the baptism!

girlymom said...

What a sweet letter from your sister! I couldn't have put it any better. We have baptism planning going on over here as well and it is such a special time. We get a lot of questions from the older kids as well, so it is a great time to push a little lesson upon them. It's amazing how fast they grow and learn! I saw a 14 day old baby at church and she made my baby look huge...I'm not ready for my teeny tiny baby to grow up yet!

OHmommy said...

Awwwww..... perfect post. The letter was so sweet.

I too love having life in my house. I love having people over. :)

Maria said...

That's nice that you had such a great time! It's nice to hear that you were even sad when everyone left and the house was quiet.

Misty said...

Here's to all the moments yet to come.

KATE said...

What a sweet post! I'm glad it all turned out & you had a nice day!

I completely understand, my oldest is 9! She amazes me everyday & no matter what I do she keeps growing up. Those pesky years just keep coming & going. Hold on tight, but just try to enjoy all the ages Baby J goes thru! It is so fun!!

KG said...

When my son was baptised, he screamed . . . sort of like a scene from "The Exorcist" when touched by holy water.

It was awesome.

Lizzy in the Burbs said...

You are so right, there is no way to prepare your heart for so much love, it just happens!

Congratulations to baby J on his baptism, and happy you had such a nice day with family and friends!

Your sister's letter was really beautiful and something J will treasure when he grows up!


Miss Lisa said...

Ohhh that's such a sweet post!! You know the funny thing about the moments--there are times you can't believe they are actually happening!
The letter was beautiful!

Burgh Baby said...

That really was so very sweet. I think some of the same things. It's hard to imagine my Toddler as a mouthy teenager, but she probably will be. But at the same time, she has and always will bring me an enormous amount of happiness every single day.

just jamie said...

Well-said Laskigal. I truly can not believe how quickly it is going. I'll see a baby and think, "Oh, I have one of those (or two of those actually with twins)," but I really don't have babies anymore. I almost forget.

The other day I told my daughter, "You're two, honey. You're not quite old enough to do ... (whatever it was). She reminded me, "Mommy, I'm three and a half."

Oh yeah.

Congrats Baby J.

Jen said...

Mommyhood is always, always bitter-sweet. :)

Thanks for sharing J's special day with us!

As Cape Cod Turns said...

Great post. I love having my house full of people too. Congrats on J's baptism. You better throw in another load of wash so you have some back ground noise and don't feel too lonely.

adequatemom said...

The moments ... I know what you mean. Already I have been pondering the bittersweet sadness that will come to pass when my daughter is born and her kicks and squirms are no longer mine alone, but have to be shared with the world. This led to the realization that the next 5 (10, 15, 20 ...) years of my life are going to be a constant process of letting her go and learning to share her with the world.

But we can always hang on to the moments!

Anonymous said...

i just had my first little boy in december and i understand what ur feeling. its hard to believe all the things they are going to do but all you really want to do is sit and hold them...forever!

Anonymous said...

Oh--you make me want to cry! Girl, you are so right on. I love what your sister said. So, sweet.

tulipmom said...

Congrats on J's baptism!
This was a beautiful post.

My baby girl isn't even here yet, and I'm already thinking about how fast that first year will fly by and what I can do to slow it down. Nothing, I know, but I'm hoping this will help me to spend more time enjoying the moments(even when the routine seems monotonous as I know it will at times) and less time worrying about the little things (is she eating enough, sleeping enough, meeting all the milestones, etc. etc.).

Your sister's letter to Little J. was just beautiful. He's lucky to have such a special aunt.

Anonymous said...

Now let's talk about weddings.Tonight I have a formerly Catholic nephew marrying a Morman girl, and they're having a reception (on a Friday during Lent) with meat, and no coffee, tea or booze. My Catholic family is insulted. They weren't even allowed to attend the wedding ceremony, but were expected to provide gifts. What do you think? See what I think at, and vote in my poll on when it's proper to play by the rules.

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